College Football and Ministry Hot seats

This morning a friend posted an article on the University of Tennessee’s Head Football Coach Derek Dooley.  As I read it the last two paragraphs made me think about how the fishbowl of college football coaches is very similar to Church staff.

I know that’s no excuse to keep a coach on staff, but at that moment, I realized something that I’d forgotten. I’d forgotten that every word I write, whether Dooley reads it or not, affects someone. It might be his wife, his family, his parents or his players. I realized that Dooley hasn’t broken any regulations. He hasn’t given the university a bad name or spoken unprofessionally about anyone involved in the program. He’s committed no crime.

Fans would do well to remember the positives as well as the negatives and post facts, not just opinions. Tennessee fans might want to reconsider their hate for a man who has pulled their team through adversity, who came (along with his family) when Lane Kiffin left and who won’t leave unless he’s pushed out.

 

Too often in ministry I have seen staff members judged by their last failed program, idea, Bible Study, event, and even sermon series.  There are “seasons” in church staff lives that they go through tough times, yet do not share it with laity.  There are “seasons” of down numbers and down programs.  Instead of providing help for the staff, laity talk behind their back, leave the church, do not offer to step up and help.  They treat them just like alumni and fans do to coaches.  They see them as expendable and look for the next greatest thing instead of supporting them and joining them along side in ministry.  They forget they have families they often hear the gossip and negativity.  They forget about the small things they could do instead of complaining on Facebook, at Circles, at public events.  They want more, but do not help.  I’ve seen many great church staff leave ministry because of this.  They get criticized, work their tail off, are not fed because of teaching multiple things, they aren’t asked how they are doing spiritually by laity, and are thrown out beaten up from working in the church.  I’ve seen others that go from church to church, moving their families over and over and every church they go to ends in the same hot seat due to churches not taking care of their staff.

The latest losing streak for a coach that is labeled on the hot seat is no different than a ministry staff member who has a tough time finding volunteers to help, or gives a bad sermon series.  They are human and sometimes need time to build their team and make changes.  Laity see the present instead of the groundwork that has been laid for the future of the programs.

 

Good News in the Neigborhood

Last night we started our new small group series “Good News in the Neighborhood” by Adam McClane and Jon Huckins.  We had great discussion and it opened not only the student’s eyes but also mine.  I realized last night that I have lived in the church parsonage and have not met any of the neighbors in the neighborhood behind us.  Wow!  Did i really just say that?  We do live on a main road and we have known that we would be moving soon, we never made any type of effort to meet the any of the neighbors.  We have had plenty of opportunities that we could have made this happen.  My wife and I have both ran and walked through the neighborhood, but have never stopped to say hi or introduce ourselves to the people who live so close to the church!

This 6-week series will deep dive your students into the practical realities of a radical life with Jesus. Built around six themes of community life, students will gain an understanding of their role in their community and be challenged by a series of simple experiments they can try. More than a series that teaches your students about being Good News in their community, Good News in the Neighborhood offers practical application based on the life of Jesus and the 1st century Church. Our hope is that your students begin to see how God has called them to become good news in their homes, schools, and neighborhoods.

Curriculum Outline

Week 1: Tuning In (Experiment: Ethnography/Observation)

Week 2: Diving Deep (Experiment: Participating)

Week 3: Crossing Borders (Experiment: Two-fold inviting)

Week 4: Advocating for What Matters (Experiment: Standing up for our neighbors)

Week 5: New Eyes (Experiment: New eyes)

Week 6: Living a New Story (Experiment: Commissioning)

What’s included

  • 52 page printable PDF of teachers notes
  • Editable Word version of teachers notes & student worksheets
  • Background artwork for PowerPoint, Keynote, MediaShout, or ProPresenter (Includes source PhotoShop file, too)
  • 6 introductory video stories (One for each week)
  • Multiple options for each session to fit the needs of your group (Activity ideas, discussion starters, teaching options)
  • 6 experiments for students to try between sessions

I’m really excited about the upcoming weeks in studying this topic with my students and adults.  Already reading through the entire lesson outlines, I know that it will really open our eyes.  I look forward to also moving into our new home and neighborhood next week where I am going to get back to the basics of meeting people and getting to know them.  I look back at my neighborhood growing up and I see how everyone was open and connected.  I really want to bring that to our new neighborhood and bring the Good News to them.

The process of downloading…

In ministry we often feel pressure to make it to the final step of change.  We see where we want our students to be or where we might want our program to be.  Instead of making sure all the steps take place, we take short cuts, ignore things in order to make it happen sooner.  I believe a lot of comes from the pressure of our digital society of getting everything instantly.

As I write this I am downloading the new IOS 6 for my iPhone.  Because so many people are trying to download it as well, it is taking sometime to download it.  I want to use it now!  But there is no short cut to download it faster,  I must be patient and let the process happen.  Too often in my ministry over the past 14 years, I want students to change how they act and forget that the process takes time for them to download their new habits into their lives.  I also have had the same problem when it comes to change in my programming, small groups, sunday school, and other areas in ministry.  I want immediate change.  I then get frustrated and often just quit instead of letting them develop.

This year we have made a big change in our ministry, by separating high school and middle school.   And for the first time in a while in ministry, I’m letting go and letting things work out when it comes to programming.  Before I would have already made changes to both groups.  But right now, I’m riding it out for a while to see what happens.  And it feels so much less stress by doing this.

Thursday Thoughts: Spiritual Summer Slump

Over the past week I’ve had several students who said that they have been struggling with their spiritual lives this summer.  And all of them are not running from God, going out and partying, hooking up, or anything like that.  They just are feeling a summer slump.  They have all said that losing the daily routine of school and after school activities, they have lost their schedule of their devotion time.  The students said it is so much easier during the school year to plan it out with their set schedules, but during the freedom of summer and range of times of waking up its been hard for them to get motivated.

After discussing with one student last night, I took a look at my own daily devotion time during the past three weeks of summer.  And I’ve noticed that I have been as consistent as I was during the school year as well.  During the past three weeks I’ve had a weird non-normal schedule which has changed me without me noticing my devotion time have not been as regular and in the normal time slots I had them.

So in conclusion we all hit the summer spiritual slump and take a vacation without noticing it!  Take the time and schedule the time!

How do you witness on Facebook?

In the past week or so I’ve had numerous conversations with my students about witnessing online.  We are studying Real Conversations by Jonathan McKee for all June Summer Bible Study.  And in our discussion and then multiple conversations since our last study, I’ve had many of my students who are tired of people and their status witness online.  They have pointed out several friends, other youth pastors, and in their words “older people” who daily post pictures that they describe as “turn or burn” and think its a real turnoff.  They have said that these same people post messages that basically turnoff other Christians and nonbelievers to God.  Their perspective is that we should live our lives on Facebook as that others would know who we are and who we stand for and that we don’t need to write “lame” status updates that turn others away from God.  They understand that these people have a good heart in their posting, but in reality it turns them off and they wonder what non-christians who see this feel.  They said that several youth pastors and pastors posting would make them run away from that church if they were their youth pastor or pastor.  They feel that it makes Christians look bad and holier than thou!

So what’s the best way for us to witness online?  Is it to post these inspirational pictures multiple times?  Is it that we tell people they should be in church on Sunday?  My students answer…Is that we should be real and everyone will see it.  They think its alright to post an inspirational picture now and then, but don’t over do it.  They think that we should tell about what we get out of church, but don’t make people feel guilty for not being there.  Instead give them a small taste and make them want to come check out what is going on at your church.  But more importantly if you want to invite someone to church, don’t post it on Facebook.  Take the time and call them.  Take time to catch up with old friends and invite them back.  Don’t be general, be real…have a real conversation and take action, not just a Facebook religious status!